What Young Adults Hear All The Time: Should They Listen?

Developing better life habits blog
Dr. Drew Rubin

Young adults everywhere have heard familiar sayings about their future. “You’re perfect just the way you are.” “You’ll be good at anything.” But these and other statements are not always true—and don’t need to be.

As part of a newer generation, many young adults are not given the opportunity to grow individually, to recognize that everything they do isn’t perfect, while the expectations of the older generation are also not always applicable to this one.

“You’ll be good at anything.” Well no, maybe you won’t. And that’s okay. Maybe you’ll really suck at math, and maybe English will drive you mad. There’s no problem in any of that. Focus on what you are good at, and expand those talents.

“You’re perfect just the way you are.” While refusing to adhere to society’s physical standards is great, double-check your mental ones. Things like common decency, respect, and compassion seem to have gone away in many circumstances. Do you try to have a good attitude? Are you hard working and honest? If you can answer yes, you’re well on your way to success. If not, it might be time to step back and reevaluate.

“Don’t miss your chance to get married.” Yeah, okay, we’ve all heard that. What if you don’t want to get married? What if you do, but aren’t ready? Do not take that very serious step until you are ready and willing. Marriage isn’t a boat that floats past only once in our lifetime. Neither is it the end-all for everything good in the world. Do what you want to in life, choose that career, go to that school, and travel the world. If marriage comes along and you want it then, you can make your choice. Don’t think you have to be afraid of missing it.

“You need to get into the best school or you’ll never get a good career.” Definitely not the case. So many smaller universities have a lot to offer, including smaller class sizes. These smaller classes enable professors to get to know you and then be much more willing to write exceptional letters of recommendation for your future endeavors. A big name does not always mean the best chance at the job you’d love.